Ahlan wa sahlan, this is A Door, Not a Wall, and I am Karim. Tonight's story comes from Dina in Alexandria, and I will warn you now, half of you will recognise it. Two years ago Dina's younger brother got engaged. The wedding needed money. Dina, the eldest, the responsible one, the one with a job at a bank, lent him most of what she had saved. Everyone said how good she was. Eighteen months later the money has not come back, and when Dina gently raised it at dinner, her father put down his fork and said, in this family we do not keep accounts. So tonight we talk about money, about birth order, about what we expect from eldest daughters, and about how to ask for what is yours without anyone calling you shameful. You are listening on Witspeak Podcasts.