Hi, I am Devon Whitfield, and this is The Handover at the School Gate, a show about co-parenting after separation for people who want to do it well and sometimes do not manage. I am a family mediator. I am also a divorced dad of two, and I want to start this first episode with something I am not proud of. In June 2021, after a handover that went badly, I typed a text message to my ex-wife. It was four paragraphs. It was angry. Most of it was true. I did not send it, and it is still in my drafts folder, and today I am going to read it to you. Then Anika Sorensen, a mediator I trust, will explain why messages like mine end up in court bundles, and what to write instead. You are listening on Witspeak Podcasts.