Hello, I am Joanna Reyes-Villanueva, and this is Who Sits With You Now. I am a grief counsellor in Manila, and in 2021 my husband Paolo died suddenly, when our daughter was four. This show is not about grief itself, exactly. It is about what grief does to everyone around you, to the marriage, the siblings, the friends, the in-laws, the people you thought would be there. In the year after Paolo died I kept a notebook of who came and who did not. Today I am going to read from it, without names, and without anger, because I have had time to understand most of it. Then Marites, a listener in Cebu who was widowed at 41, is going to read from hers. You are listening on Witspeak Podcasts. Please sit with us.